As We Are // What's Up With the Title?? + Much More

July 10, 2017

Everyone rejoice!!  Words at last! ;D

I have been asked before the meaning behind the title of my novel, as we are. Usually, I just reply, ”you'll see”, as any good writer would who doesn't really want to explain. ;)

But now I am here to explain.

When I first came up with As We Are’s title, I was aiming for something that sounded along the lines of Jesus loving and accepting us as we are, no matter what we’ve done. Not all the characters in my book are perfectly moral. They all struggle. When I first started As We Are in January 2016, I don't think I really understood what I was getting myself into. My first plotline was handwritten on some notebook paper and was about three-quarters of a page long. It was simple, with some cliche plot twists and basic dull characters. But as the months drew on and I wrote and rewrote plot lines and character profiles, I realized that As We Are was going to have a lot more to it that I first thought.

Starting in November 2015, I read Gone With the Wind by Margaret Mitchell. The book is epic and touches on everything you could ever encounter in life. Even more inspiring though, was Margaret Mitchell's way of writing it.

If you've ever read the book, you might understand what I mean. Her style is fascinating and totally brilliant and unique. She describes every single thing . . . so well. Like a particularly talented L. M. Montgomery would. And yet she leaves more than ever to the reader to think up themselves.

I still don't know exactly how she did it. All I know is that even the moment I started the book, it was immediately ranked #1 of all the books I had ever read in my entire life. It was as if Margaret Mitchell had actually put life into her written words.

Gone With the Wind didn’t feel like a story, it felt like real life. To me, that was the greatest thing ever.

I finished Gone With the Wind in February 2016. I was inspired beyond words, My mission in writing is to put life into my stories, and seeing that someone else had successfully done just that was beautiful.

I plotted madly.

My characters developed into nearly living and breathing things.

I believe that all stories have a basic moral or meaning they are trying to get across. To me, Gone With the Wind’s was that no matter how hard you try, you cannot change or go back to the past. Once something happens, it is written in the book of your life and cannot ever really fully be undone. You cannot ever live through something that happened again. The past is “gone with the wind” so to speak. This meant the world to me. Gone With the Wind bears such a beautiful, sad, worldly message.

And so As We Are was born. A spirited little colt, ready to leave its own message with the world. Ready to live beyond its author’s grave.

I don't aim to write a perfect story. In fact, that's exactly what I don't want to write. I witnessed life in the pages of a book and I want to somehow do that as well.

Humans make mistakes. They make a lot of them their whole lives.

Most writers (I've seen): the characters lives start out perfect and then something huge happens to change it. Things go downhill. At the end of the book, the character’s life is perfect again and they've learned something . . .

But honestly, that is not really how it works. There are ups and downs throughout our entire lives.

I'm not trying to bash and group together all these writers that do this. I've done the same thing in my books too many times to count unfortunately. But if what they're aiming for is to paint lifelike books, they've got it all wrong. Our lives hold so much more than just twenty chapters of great adventure that just peter out at the end of the book. Why, Gone With the Wind has 1,024 pages and 63 chapters. And Margaret Mitchell doesn't even finish the book! She closes with an open-ended sentence letting the reader finish the rest of Scarlett's life as they wish. It's a very unsatisfactory ending, but I think that's why it's so famous. Because where Gone With the Wind ends, a new story begins.

This is the most lifelike book I have ever come across and I think it will ever come across. I think there need to be more books like it.

I titled my book As We Are in the summer of 2016. I knew I had wanted the story behind the title to be something to do with Teddy admitting to Philippe at the end of the book that he loved her as she was, and no matter what she did, he would always love her. It was only just a few months ago in 2017 that I came up with Teddy's exact line:

“If I take you, Philippe, I will take you as you are. For it’s not the fake Philippe I love, but the one who stands here beside me.”

It's such a simple line, but it means everything.

What I write in As We Are will not be Philippe’s whole life.

I want it to be the kind of book that leaves you sobbing in places, laughing hysterically, wildly in others, feeling a kneading in your heart because the book is so darn beautiful. 

I want it to be a life-changer. 

A race-winner. 

A whole world of its own.

More than just a good book.

I have every intention of finishing this book even if it takes ten years. It will be worth it. Because the greatest gift I am giving this story is my time. And once it holds that with part of my soul and a portion of my heart, it will be so powerful and so unforgettable. Words are certainly powerful, but it's really how you use them that makes the difference.

Also one of the weirdest things about As We Are so far is that as I keep writing word after word, I have noticed that it is unintentionally my life. All the characters have twins in my life. And the story is my story. At least so far.
I plotted the book before those things in my life happened though. Umm okay that's creepy . . . ;)

Anyhoo, I'm sure the title will gain a more sure meaning as the book continues to be written.

Yet another post from yours truly,
Sophy xx

What's the meaning behind your book title?
What does As We Are's meaning mean to you?
Have you read Gone With the Wind?


  1. I can't believe no one has left a comment yet, because this post is so earnest and so raw. I loved what you did with the photos stylistically. You, m'dear, have found a wonderful story to write about, and it's something special all right, and a lot of it comes from the fact that you talk about this so openly, from the sense of (like you said) a colt bursting out, to how the characters mirror your life. I ate this post all up. Brava.

    xoxo Abigail Lennah | ups & downs

    1. Aww thank you for commenting then! :D I'm so glad you liked it.
      Thank you!! I loved how the photos turned out as well. I was in the mood for some double exposures and they fit super well with this post. I'm definitely going to have to do more like this in the future!
      Wow that's a great way to put it. <3
      It means a ton to me that you liked this post. I wasn't sure about posting it, but I now see that I was wrong to doubt. xx

  2. Wow, great thoughts!


  3. Oh dear Sophy.
    Words can't express how much love I have for this post. Tears sprung to my eyes while reading it. I completely understand that longing to write a life changing book that will rock people's world. I have no doubt that if anyone can write such a book, it will be you.
    You are so open and raw here, it inspires me to be that way myself, and your passion for this story fills me with similar desire.
    You, my friend, are going to change the world.
    <333 Mira

    "Words are certainly powerful, but it's really how you use them that makes the difference."~new favorite quote right here, mind if I make it into a pin?

    1. Mira, I have no words to thank you for your beautiful comment. <3 <3 <3 You are so encouraging and I just love it everytime you comment.
      I put this comment of yours in my special journal of kind words. <3
      Thank you!!

      Haha that would be so cool! Absolutely!

  4. Wowowowowowow.
    Omw I asked my bestie for book suggestions, and the very first thing she said was Gone with the Wind!! It's the 1,000 something pages book right? NOW I WANNA READ IT SO BADDDD!
    I completely love your book title and how you explained it, as is your pictures!!! ♡

    1. No way!! That's really funny. :DD It is a great book! You should totally read it.
      Thank you!! I really appreciate that. <3

  5. this is awesome!!! "unearthing" your book and figuring out what it's truly meant to be is a beautiful process. ('gone with the wind' was on my vague tbr, but now that i read this post, i'm putting it on my 'specific tbr.')

    1. Thank you!! I can't wait to hear what you think of it!! :D

  6. This was seriously beautiful. I can't even describe it in, Sophy, just wow.

    Amelia xxx

    1. Thank you, Amelia. Those words are very special to me. <3


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